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YOUR REAL, YOUR IDEAL

Co-Hosts: Amy Tokos and Sandy Lane

Two women taking on life’s questions as posed by their listeners. Through their unique journeys in weathering life to date, Amy and Sandy, tackle the probing questions and issues by first recognizing the real in life’s situations to get to the desired ideal. Practical. Honest. Fun. Curious. Helping women create the ideal they want most in our shared journey of life.

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Our video catalog of Season 4 and 5 (or find our channel Your Real, Your Ideal on YouTube)…

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  • Season 5: Episode 28 - Medical Advocacy
    5/16/24

    Season 5: Episode 28 - Medical Advocacy

    We do not have to accept discomfort and lower energy just because we’re aging. Sandy and Amy share their experiences and why it’s important to be your own advocate when it comes to your health.

  • Season 5: Episode 27 - The Adult Gap Year
    5/9/24

    Season 5: Episode 27 - The Adult Gap Year

    The kids are all doing it, how about us? Taking an adult gap year or sabbatical can give you an opportunity to pause and rethink your path forward. It might take a little planning but the consensus is that it is worth it.

  • Season 5: Episode 26 - Microaggressions
    5/2/24

    Season 5: Episode 26 - Microaggressions

    What is a microaggression, you ask? In this episode, we dig into that and share some examples. We hope to raise awareness to help all of us do better. Knowing impact is more important than our intention.

  • Season 5: Episode 25 - Privilege and Privacy
    4/18/24

    Season 5: Episode 25 - Privilege and Privacy

    Is privacy a privilege? Are we entitled to share things about other people? Sandy and Amy discuss privacy, secrets, what drives our need for privacy, and respecting other people's desires to be private or not.

  • Season 5: Episode 24 - Words Matter
    4/4/24

    Season 5: Episode 24 - Words Matter

    Words matter and stir emotion. Sometimes it’s the word, and sometimes it’s the intention. In this episode, we discuss the words that stir our emotions and the times we’ve had to bite our tongue.

  • Season 5: Episode 23: Oscars Recap
    3/21/24

    Season 5: Episode 23: Oscars Recap

    Movies can be an escape from reality, and sometimes they are reality. Sandy and Amy have been watching the Oscar nominees. They’ve been entertained and even had some perspective shifts. It’s a fun conversation, but be warned, there are some spoilers.

  • Season 5: Episode 22 - Firsts in Our Fifties
    3/14/24

    Season 5: Episode 22 - Firsts in Our Fifties

    You can try new things at any age. Sandy and Amy explore what they’ve tried since they turned 50 and why they hadn't done it before. The interesting thing is that their lists are completely different.

  • Season 5: Episode 21 - Energy Vampires
    3/7/24

    Season 5: Episode 21 - Energy Vampires

    Oh yes, you know who and what your energy vampires are. Sandy and Amy share some of the people and things that drain their energy. Plus, the strategies, ranging from candy to conversations, can help.

  • Season 5: Episode 20 - Food Insecurity
    2/29/24

    Season 5: Episode 20 - Food Insecurity

    We have Kristi Reimers as a guest for this episode. She shares her insights and knowledge about food insecurity, which is more recently known as nutrition insecurity. The gap between food and access can be big for some people. The good news is that there are some things we can do to help.

  • Season 5: Episode 19 - Mid-Life Celebration
    2/22/24

    Season 5: Episode 19 - Mid-Life Celebration

    If you’ve hit midlife, does it feel like a crisis or are you able to celebrate this phase of life? Sandy and Amy discuss what we can be celebrating as we age.

    “Aging is an extraordinary process where you become the person you always should have been.”

    David Bowie

  • Season 5: Episode 18 - Solomon's Paradox
    2/15/24

    Season 5: Episode 18 - Solomon's Paradox

    Are you good at giving advice? Do you also take your own advice? Many of us can give, but sometimes we don’t apply it to ourselves - that is Solomon’s Paradox. Sandy and Amy talk about giving advice, our advice experiences, and when we don’t take our own advice.

  • Season 5: Episode 16 - Work-Life Imbalance
    2/8/24

    Season 5: Episode 16 - Work-Life Imbalance

    “Work-life balance” is more about the action of balancing and having good boundaries. In this episode, Sandy and Amy share their times of struggle with balance and how they made it through.

  • Season 5: Episode 16 - Things That Keep Us Up at Night
    2/1/24

    Season 5: Episode 16 - Things That Keep Us Up at Night

    We all want a good night’s sleep, but sometimes there are things…you know, all the things (projects, problems, etc.) that keep us awake. Sandy and Amy share the literal and the philosophical things that keep them awake.

  • Season 5: Episode 15 - What are You Afraid of?
    1/25/24

    Season 5: Episode 15 - What are You Afraid of?

    We all have the things that scare us. Fear is one of the things that limits women in their professional and personal pursuits. Is fear holding you back? Sandy and Amy discuss common fears, when they affect them, and how they overcome or avoid the discomfort.

    #podcast #habits #consultants #productivity #values #happinessfactor #REAL #fear #powerofvalue

  • Season 5: Episode 14 - Perspective Shift
    1/18/24

    Season 5: Episode 14 - Perspective Shift

    We are kicking off the new year with new views and new perspectives. Sandy and Amy share how a perspective shift can make doing big things a little easier. Not sweating the small stuff and not creating drama is key for us.

  • I so enjoy your podcast. The authenticity in the conversations is refreshing.

    A listener from Florida

  • Grateful for your podcast!

    Ellen Delap